I’m relieved that some journalists are beginning to pay attention to the fact that COVID-19 is disproportionately impacting people of color. This outcome is the result of demographics and geography as well as people of color being more likely to be working in essential positions that place people of color at a higher risk of infection. People of color also have greater susceptibility to the virus due to health risk factors that are the result of a lack of access to healthcare, structural and environmental racism, and the well-documented discrimination within healthcare regarding treatments and prescriptions made available to them. When you add it all up, it becomes nauseatingly clear why people of color are at higher risk. I have no doubt that white supremacists are seizing on this outcome as evidence of the biological inferiority of people of color despite there being no biological basis for what human’s call “race.”
There does appear to be a biological, sex-based explanation for why men are more likely to be hospitalized and die from COVID-19. The prevailing sex-based explanation for this outcome is that women’s immune systems are stronger and more effective at fighting viruses, and this may be linked to the fact that women give birth. I’ll leave it to my biology colleagues to fill in the missing and technical details in my explanation, but I wanted to make it clear up front that I acknowledge the higher infection and mortality rate among men having some basis in biology. While very important to our understanding, this still only partially explains what’s going on with men’s higher infection and mortality rates. What’s absent in this discussion is an understanding of the gendered aspects of COVID-19 and how traditional masculine ideology is impacting the rates of infection and the reactions to mitigation efforts. I’ve previously made the argument that traditional masculine ideology is a public health hazard; only this time I mean it quite literally.
Men who subscribe to traditional masculine ideology are more likely to engage in risky behaviors. These behaviors include drinking and smoking in excess, using illegal drugs, careless use of weapons, and driving like a lunatic. The behaviors may also include not taking public health warnings seriously, dismissing and joking about health risks, not going to a doctor (even when in pain), and ridiculing others for listening to healthcare professionals, scientists, and politicians who enact shelter in place policies. Real men don’t physically distance, wear face masks, or allow others they perceive as infringing on their juvenile notions of liberty from limiting what they will and will not do. Real men view men who permit science to direct their behaviors and who act to protect public health as suspect and wimpy while viewing women who attempt to protect public health as over-reacting and too emotional, attempting to emasculate men and “wussify” America. Real men do not accept directions from others, even when lost and wrong. Far be it from me to psychologize, but you really have to wonder in amazement at the levels of anxiety, self-doubt, and insecurity among men who react so poorly to people who are attempting to protect them from themselves.
Sociologist Michael Kimmel recounts an exercise he’s done with thousands of men. He asks men to define what it means to be a “good man.” The typical responses include, “integrity, honor, being responsible, being a good provider, doing the right thing, putting others first, sacrifice, caring, and standing up for people who need help.” He then asks these same men to define what it means to be a “real man.” The typical responses include, “never cry, be strong, don’t show your feelings, play through pain, suck it up, win at all costs, be aggressive, and be a womanizer.” Take a moment to let this sink in and marvel at this irreconcilable contradiction that men are carrying around. This simple exercise provides a glimpse of the extent to how completely screwed up our notions of manhood are. Then take note that what these men define as “real manhood” is what’s meant by traditional masculine ideology. Men who adhere to traditional masculine ideology are putting themselves, their families, and the public at higher risk of infection from COVID-19. This puts a whole new twist on the concept “toxic masculinity.”
Real men organize protests against shelter in place orders. These protests strike me as patriarchal celebrations of traditional masculine ideology. While some women attend these protests, the hyper-masculine tone and tenor of these protests is unmistakably patriarchal. The protests are often organized by white nationalists and anti-government conspiracy theorists, and extreme adherence to traditional masculine ideology is the undercurrent in all these groups. The protests are mostly male driven expressions of panic over the perceived threat among some men that their masculine identity and false sense of control is in jeopardy due to weak politicians and wimpy intellectuals who are unwilling to take risks and who are placing unnecessary restrictions on their movements. Self-induced panic and anti-government paranoia are also driving many of these same men to purchase weapons and ammunition. Men motivated by their own masculine insecurities do not react well to facts or criticism, constructive or otherwise. No matter how illogical or detrimental, they’ll double-down every time. For a group of people so quick to dismiss women as overly emotional, their own emotional insecurities are driving them to illogical and often conspiratorial conclusions that put both their personal well-being and public health at risk.
Real men are endangering public health and safety. Women have an important role to play by not validating “real men” and making it clear to the men in their lives that they’re looking for “good men.” Ultimately though, the responsibility to change our understanding and expectations of masculinity lies with men. It’s extremely unfortunate that public debate over how best to proceed during this pandemic will not include some understanding of the ways the spread of COVID-19 and the public debate itself is being framed by toxic masculinity, insecure men, and male leaders who play to the worst in these men. The toxic masculinity on full display to young boys is having an insidious impact that can only be altered by “good men” with the courage to stand up for gender justice and equity and who understand that good men ARE the real men.